Twilight Twitches

fetscherDear Family,
We have just celebrated the Liturgy of Christian Burial for Cynthia Alonzi, pictured above with best friend, Diana Borg. Cynthia was the office assistant and between Annie and Cynthia everything moved along. As luck would have it, for the first time since I have been at St. Sebastian, Annie actually took time off for illness with a flu that was a killer. As I said at Cynthia’s Mass, this place was scary without them. Cliché or no, you don’t appreciate what you have until you don’t have it.

Over the years, you get to know people you work with and you share some of the stories, happy and sad, that mark people’s lives. We shared our stories. (Relatives don’t have to worry. It was all good!)

One element of loss, at least mine, is losing someone who understands the things you say and do. They don’t need explanations. They just know. As I sit here pondering that, my heart goes out to Nate who knows what I’m talking about x 1000. I hope I’m not selfish sounding, just sad.

cynRemembering Cynthia’s ‘cackle’ helps me break through the sadness and that’s what I’ll try to do to keep smiling. In my head I know where she is. We all do. Still, it’s not easy to get used to the absence of someone who was a pleasant presence. So, as she is discovering the bowling lanes in heaven we will be high-fiving each other with the knowledge she’s getting 300 every time. (If God didn’t bowl before, I think He might be now. Gram used to tell us it was the angels bowling when we heard thunder. I’m not sure she ever explained lightning.)

Having Cynthia’s boys there, Mark and Mike, as well as her daughter-in-law, Donna, was a blessing because we got to put faces on names of kids that made Cynthia proud.

An event like this is a good time to look at how we are tending our friendships. Is there someone we’re taking for granted? Checking up on one friendship a day would be pretty good. Maybe we tend to stuff people in certain boxes that don’t give them – or us, room to move. I can hear Cynthia saying, “Don’t nag.” So, I’m done, but I going to make my list of ‘Check-ups.” Cynthia can look over my shoulder and help.

With any kind of luck, as you read this I should be somewhere on the “bounding main.” At week at sea, presumably avoiding tropical waves. I hope they aren’t beating you up at home, either.
Because of all that was going on this week, we were late with bulletin stuff and thus you have this insert into the “generic” bulletin as our suppli¬ers call it. I can’t wait to see what generic means. Annie is taking care of the other side of this page as usual, flu and all.

Stay in Jesus,
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